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I often converse with women of my age, mostly those that have retired from full-time employment and have grandchildren. They all tend to lament that they barely have time to scratch themselves in their retirement and as a consequence they are tired and rundown. My initial thought is “how come they’re so busy? Isn’t being an empty nester and a retiree supposed to be the time in your life when your time is all your own?” Well apparently in a lot of circumstances this is not the case, so here’s my tips for making time just for you in your 50s and 60s.
There are two main reasons: grandchildren and elderly parents. The majority of women in my age group have much loved and adorable grandchildren, and as such the expectation is that as retirees we have plenty of spare time to babysit. In a lot of cases grandparents give up a day or more to care for their grandchildren whilst the parents are returning to the workforce.
Although I don’t have grandchildren yet, I have already been asked whether I will be on hand to help out with childcare once they arrive. Naturally I’m excited about the prospect! But have discovered from grandparent friends that they are often taken advantage of and are virtually on call 24/7.
The other caregiver role that affects my age group is assisting elderly parents, who are now in their 80s or 90s. In my case I have an 87 year old mother who requires help with shopping, meals, cleaning, ferrying to appointments and maintenance around her unit. This can erode away a lot of our spare time and it tends to fall on the female siblings in the family, rather than the male siblings. Well it does in my case anyway!
We all know that “family is everything” and we love our kids and grandkids to bits. However I think it’s important to set some ground rules when it comes to “family expectations”.
With a growing ageing population there are now many great initiatives for keeping the elderly in their homes with government assisted schemes, financial aid, and mobility equipment like rollabout chairs and walkers for adults who need it. Alternatively, you can also opt for senior living facilities where your elderly parents can receive 24/7 nursing care that cannot be provided at home.
Many of us having ageing parents that need care
Although I’m not quiet at the retirement or grandchild stage of my life, I find that family expectations can sometimes be overwhelming. There are days where I feel as though I’m being pulled in ten different directions! Fortunately I generally schedule some “me time” at the beginning of the week and I stick to it and I have a newly acquired skill of saying “no” if I’m too busy.
I believe that life in our 50s and 60s should be our time to put our feet up and forget about the pressures of work, home and children. However in saying this it’s still important to spend time with our families and help out where needed. It’s about finding balance. We’ve done our bit, so it’s our time to shine!
What are your thoughts? Do you think it’s fair to be overburdened with grandchild babysitting duties and caring for elderly parents once we’ve retired?
This post is part of the Lovin’ Life Linky with a Lovin’ Life Team of the “ageing positively” kind who are as keen as I am to promote the Lovin’ Life mindset.
The Lovin’ Life Team includes:
Kathy was a 50 something year old when she started up this blog 6 years ago, but has since turned over another decade and is now in her early 60s. She is married with two adult children and lives on the Tweed Coast of New South Wales, Australia. Kathy enjoys living life to the fullest and loves to keep fit and active by maintaining a healthy diet and exercising regularly. Some of her interests include reading, photography, travelling, cooking and blogging! Kathy works part-time as a freelance writer but her real passion is travelling and photographing brilliant destinations both within Australia and overseas and writing about it.
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