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A friend of mine said recently that “becoming a grandmother is wonderful. One moment you’re just a mother, the next you are all-wise and prehistoric”.
For years my mum was my ‘go to person’ for all sorts of advice, from how to cook a certain meal, how to get a stain out of a shirt, how to dress, how to get my hair styled, how to deal with boyfriend issues and how to nurse a cold. She was always there – she was my rock and confidante. The one person I could rely on and reveal my inner most thoughts.
Then time marches on and you have a husband, a house and children of your own so your relationship changes with your mother. You don’t tend to rely on her so much and now that my mum is an octogenarian I feel I don’t want to bother her with trivialities or things that may upset her. She deserves to live out her life without taking onboard all of my problems.
I know as the mother of two adult children I am the first port of call when things go wrong in their lives. It can be any little mishap like a dead battery in their car, a parking fine, a crappy day at work, an argument with their partner or even a red rash on their face! I always avail myself to listen to their grievances with a sympathetic tone and the appropriate comment of “that sucks” in the right places! That is what we mothers do, don’t we?
I contemplated what advice I might give my daughter, if and when she decides to have a child, and this is what I came up with:
I think this pretty much sums it up. You just don’t get it until you become a mother yourself!
“No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother’s love. It shrinks not where man cowers, and grows stronger where man faints, and over wastes of worldly fortunes sends the radiance of its quenchless fidelity like a star”. ~Edwin Hubbell Chapin
Kathy was a 50 something year old when she started up this blog 6 years ago, but has since turned over another decade and is now in her early 60s. She is married with two adult children and lives on the Tweed Coast of New South Wales, Australia. Kathy enjoys living life to the fullest and loves to keep fit and active by maintaining a healthy diet and exercising regularly. Some of her interests include reading, photography, travelling, cooking and blogging! Kathy works part-time as a freelance writer but her real passion is travelling and photographing brilliant destinations both within Australia and overseas and writing about it.
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Rae Hilhorst
May 3, 2016Fabulous post Kathy. I loved going from a mother to being all wise and pre-historic x
Kathy
May 3, 2016Thanks Rae. I loved that quote from my friend as well. :)
Michelle Weaver (@pinkypoinker)
May 3, 2016Lovely post Kathy. I love the photo as well. Which is the mother and which the daughter? Gosh you look alike x
Kathy
May 3, 2016Thank you Michelle. I never see my daughter and I as being alike, because she is fair with blue eyes and I’m dark with brown eyes. However I guess we do have some similarities. We are both petite! :)
budgettraveltalk
May 3, 2016Ah yes, I agree with it all. So well written Kathy. The thing you don’t realise before you have kids is that it doesn’t end when they leave home – you still worry about them even if you can’t fix their problems. I think having a grandchild would be an amazing experience.
Kathy
May 4, 2016Thanks Jan. I’m looking forward to grandparenthood, but I think it will be a while before it happens. Our two kids always come to us with their problems, which is nice, but like you say you never cease to worry about them. :)
sue elliott
May 4, 2016What a lovely timely post Kathy. Happy day on Sunday.
Kathy
May 4, 2016Thanks Sue. Happy Mother’s Day to you too. :)
Johanna
May 6, 2016Lovely post Kathy. I so related to everything you said. From being the lioness to just wanting to be with them and all those beautiful times such as watching them learn to ride a bike and joining in their joy and achievement and hell yeah, those gorgeous belly laughs, and joining with the great universal tribe of women just hating war, violence, and peadophilea.. her
Kathy
May 6, 2016We have just returned from a family dinner for my husbands birthday and although our son is 27 years old I still feel that overwhelming protectiveness towards him. I don’t think that will ever go away. Being a mother is for life that’s for sure!