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The Ugly Truth About Being 50+

  • February 3, 2015
  • By 50 Shades
  • 21 Comments

Ageing

Age! People are so preoccupied with it. We are constantly judging people based on their age by saying things like “she looks great for her age, but she’s had some work done” or “she is too old to be wearing that mini skirt”.

I know this because I am guilty of judging women, in particular, on how they look for their age, how they dress and how they have their hair styled, etc. In fact I am the worst critic of other women, but from what I can understand it appears to be part of our ‘femme fatale’.

Unfortunately, age does catch up with all of us eventually. You can run and you can hide! You can even try turning back the years by exercising like crazy, existing on a diet of lettuce leaves, trying to disguise it with thick layers of makeup or even by having a nip and tuck here and an injectable here and there! But at the end of the day age catches up with us.

I only have to look in the mirror during the stark daylight to see the affects of ageing on my face, hair and body. Believe me it can be a very confronting sight! I see the deep furrow between my brow (which gives me the appearance of having a constant frown on my face), I see the brown pigmentation spots on my face, I see the sagging skin and I see the course grey hairs contrasting against my dark coloured hair.

I know, I know, it is all very depressing! So here are the some of the things that I feel are the ugly truth about being 50+:

1. Finding comfortable shoes. I freely admit that I am a lover of shoes and I have almost always worn high heel shoes. However nowadays I’m finding myself crippled and in excruciating pain after wearing a pair after several hours. I have had to resort to wearing lower heeled shoes and even resorted to kicking them off on a couple of occasions.

foot massage

2. Slowing down. This fact was brought to my attention by my 24 year old daughter when we were out shopping a few months ago. I simply could not keep pace with her. Shopping with her was like one of those contests where you are let loose in a Supermarket with a trolley and you have only 5 minutes to jam as much as you can into your trolley!

3. Putting my back out during a Yoga move. Don’t laugh I am serious! I did this a couple of months ago right at the beginning of a Yoga class I was doing a ‘Warrior Two’ (or maybe it was a ‘Warrior Three’), but never mind, and I felt my back give out. I very embarassingly excused myself from the class and had to kind of sidle my way out of the Yoga room in a sideways ‘crab-like’ fashion.

Yoga

4. Memory – where have you gone? I have found that I forget to put certain ingredients in things I cook and that is even sometimes when I’m following a written recipe. Or I go to the Supermarket with only 5 items to buy and I come home with 4. I walk downstairs to do something and when I get there I wonder what! Does any of this sound familiar??

5. Attempting to keep up with Technology. There is nothing like taking on a new job with people who are much younger and techno savvy than you, to make you feel technologically challenged. During the past few months I have had to learn how to use Dropbox, Zoho, Levart, Photoshopping, Hash Tagging and countless other technological skills.

seniors looking at ipad

6. I gotta pee! I’m certain my bladder has shrunk. It now only stores about a tablespoon of pee when it used to hold about a cup. It is even worse if I happen to adhere to the 8 glasses of water a day that is supposed to be very good for you! I’m beginning to think that I should just take my laptop computer into the loo so I can work from there!

7. Tuckshop arms. Yep I’ve got them! Don’t ever catch sight of yourself waving goodbye to someone because the jelly-like flab on your upper arm just keeps on wobbling after you have completed the action! I have also unfortunately seen some extremely unflattering photos of my ‘fadoobadas’ and they are not a pretty sight! The bad news is that even though I’ve been doing my tricep exercises religiously they have not toned up.

It may be the ugly truth of getting older, but it isn’t going force me to throw in the towel just yet. There is still some hope and I will continue to try and hold back the years!

What do you think? Are there things that you absolutely despise about getting older?

Like this post? Then check out more on ageing at Age Is a Bitch and Shriveling with Age.

Also check out two of my favourite bloggers Pinky Poinker and Lifestyle Fifty for their views on ageing.

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By 50 Shades, February 3, 2015 Kathy was a 50 something year old when she started up this blog 6 years ago, but has since turned over another decade and is now in her early 60s. She is married with two adult children and lives on the Tweed Coast of New South Wales, Australia. Kathy enjoys living life to the fullest and loves to keep fit and active by maintaining a healthy diet and exercising regularly. Some of her interests include reading, photography, travelling, cooking and blogging! Kathy works part-time as a freelance writer but her real passion is travelling and photographing brilliant destinations both within Australia and overseas and writing about it.
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50 Shades

Kathy was a 50 something year old when she started up this blog 6 years ago, but has since turned over another decade and is now in her early 60s. She is married with two adult children and lives on the Tweed Coast of New South Wales, Australia. Kathy enjoys living life to the fullest and loves to keep fit and active by maintaining a healthy diet and exercising regularly. Some of her interests include reading, photography, travelling, cooking and blogging! Kathy works part-time as a freelance writer but her real passion is travelling and photographing brilliant destinations both within Australia and overseas and writing about it.

21 Comments
  • Nancie
    February 3, 2015

    Great post, Kathy! Memory (or lack of it), and slowing down are my two pet peeves about aging. Honestly, I think I look okay for my age, and if anyone thinks otherwise it’s their problem…haha :)

    • Kathy
      February 3, 2015

      I couldn’t agree more Nancie. The older I get, the more I don’t care what other people think of me! Ageing is our badge of honour.

      • Johanna
        February 3, 2015

        So many ‘ticks’ as I read through, and yes it is all a bit depressing. But we are a growing clan and one day perhaps our society will become old-centric rather than youth-centric and the tables will turn on what’s hot and what’s not ;) Lol! Great post :)

        • Kathy
          February 3, 2015

          About all that’s hot about me is my menopausal flushes! Ha ha. Seriously though, I was just feeling very old when I wrote this post and had to get it all down on paper. I feel much better now!

  • bmpermie
    February 3, 2015

    Even more so when you are in your sixties. I directed 20 something woman on to the right bus and she was chatty and said ‘ I like how all your clothes coordinate. It is great you still care at your age’.
    She really thought she was giving me a compliment.

    • Kathy
      February 3, 2015

      Oh no, that is such a backhanded compliment. Just like when people say you are “ok for your age”. I really feel that is a bit condescending. Some days I feel really old and then others I still feel like a teenager! The joys of getting older :)

  • Life Images by Jill
    February 3, 2015

    oh yes, the truths about being 50 +…now that I am closer to 60 than 50 it’s getting scarier and scarier. All of your above points plus more! I am definitely slowing down and sometimes I feel like a slug. So many promises to self to do more exercise and keep younger by being fitter. I think having goals and plans keeps us going and it really doesn’t matter what age we are. Oh and having grandchildren around to keep us on our toes!

    • Kathy
      February 3, 2015

      I think having grandchildren around would definitely keep you young. I am looking forward to that. It is a bit scary getting older, but most of the time I don’t give it a thought until I do something ridiculous like put my back out!

  • Pinky Poinker
    February 4, 2015

    Number 4 and 6 aren’t too much of a problem for me yet at 54 years of age. Saying 54 is a problem though. Cripes! Am I really that old. Yes to everything else and I can relate to your 3rd paragraph very well. What could I add? Turkey neck, jowls, broken capillaries, the need to be home in bed by ten o’clock, teeth rattling around in my head… shall I continue? No. It’s too depressing :)

    • Kathy
      February 4, 2015

      It is very depressing.I’m having a birthday today and I can no longer say I’m in my mid 50’s. I’m now officially in my late 50’s! Yikes did I really say that out loud! It’s very scary!!!:(

  • Gabes
    February 5, 2015

    I was at the shops the other day, feeling quite fine until I caught a glimpse of myself in a shop window :( It’s those ‘tuckshop arms’ that really give the game away! And don’t get me started on the hassles of finding comfortable shoes that don’t look like they belong on a 90 year old! Sore feet are probably the biggest thing that really make me feel twice my age. I think I’m still in denial about the slowing down though :)

    • Kathy
      February 5, 2015

      Yes sometimes when I catch sight of myself in a mirror in the harsh light of day, I think “is that really me”?It can be a very confronting sight. But why are wrinkles and lines considered unattractive? Maybe we are all being too hard on ourselves!

  • Rae Hilhorst
    February 5, 2015

    The tuck shop arms are a killer, I look okay in the morning but it’s all down hill after that xxx

    • Kathy
      February 6, 2015

      Rae, you have such a trim little figure. I doubt whether you have tuck shop arms. I think you look fabulous! :)

  • budgettraveltalk
    February 7, 2015

    Yes, I concur with all that you say. You look pretty good doing Warrior 2 (or 3). More like a young chicken! Blogging is definitely a good way of keeping up with technology, although it seems never-ending. Thanks for being brave enough to say what we’re all thinking!

    • Kathy
      February 7, 2015

      The reason I look like a young chicken is because that photo is not me! Lol! I can do the Warrior 2 (or 3) pretty well for a 50 something year old, but I think I just stretched it a bit far that particular day. I agree that blogging does assist with keeping up with technology. Really anything that challenges our minds is good for us. As for the rest of stuff, I’m not going to let it stop me from doing what I love doing. And that is living my life to the fullest!! :)

  • Kim Acedo
    February 11, 2015

    I have a problem keeping up with technology too so don’t blame it on your fifties! ;)

    • Kathy
      February 11, 2015

      Well that is very comforting to know Kim. It changes ever so rapidly it is extremely hard to keep up with it all!

  • Grandmasneedlove2
    October 25, 2016

    I’m 55 and I can tell you I’m having a tough time accepting the fact I am aging. Not the health or ability stuff, but the idea that suddenly I’m no longer considered attractive to men. Not that I’ve ever been considered a femme fatale, but now I feel like I’m really losing out on any chance for love or romance because I’m getting old and ugly. Six months ago, I experienced a rather brutal rejection from man whom I really cared about. At first he seemed interested, and he even displayed what me (and several of my friends) considered “courtship behavior’ but just imagine my shock when he dropped the bomb! He told me he would never consider me for anything other than “platonic friendship.” Said he didn’t want to date or marry a ‘grandmother.’ Never mind I’m only 4 years younger than him! I’m not interested in having male friends. I want to get married and at my age I don’t have much time to waste! I know I should say what a jerk and just move on, but it still hurts and it feels like that guy was my very last chance and that I’ll always be alone. Yes, I love being a grandmother, but I’m also a WOMAN, too! Why can’t a guy see that?

    • Kathy
      October 25, 2016

      That guy is a giant jerk! He is only one man and I’m sure there are plenty of others out there that would look at you as an attractive woman. My husband tells me constantly that I am still attractive to him, which is wonderful because when I look in the mirror it isn’t what I see. Don’t let one person’s cruel words make you feel old and unattractive. You go out there and get em! :)

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